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Jul. 20th, 2015

So, stuff happened on FB yesterday. I made an off handed comment about using "niggardly and niggly" in conversation and people had feelings. Lots of them. But it was this comment that was quite telling.



So I think I need to make a confession.

I have breast.

I enjoy them, embrace them and even show them off sometimes. And, truthfully, I haven't really been able to hide them since I was about 12 years old. But I was young, well endowed and embarrassed because a boy touched me without my permission, so I wanted them to go away. But that was a long time ago and I'm not that girl anymore.

I am not ashamed of my body. And you, stranger, FB "friend," man or woman cannot shame into behaving the way you want. You certainly can't call my intelligence into question because of my attire. For one thing, you have no control over the way I feel about myself.  For another, as a black woman in this world, I have had to do nothing but prove myself. That means I'm smarter, and have more confidence and consciousness than you can ever hope to understand. I don't apologize for that.

If you feel a disconnect between my sexiness and my intelligence, that's a problem within you. And I don't apologize for that either.

I refuse to apologize for my body, my mind or my existence. I am not that 12 year old girl anymore. I am not hiding. My existence is a sight of resistance. So is my mind. As is my body.  I love, honor and enjoy them all equally. You cannot change that. Ever.

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merseabirdmynah
Jul. 20th, 2015 06:15 pm (UTC)
Why respond here then? When one is confident there's no reason to explain. You have breasts, so do a lot of other people, men included.

I'd be more interested in hearing your views regarding the words 'niggardly' and 'niggly',which in my personal opinion are outdated and derogatory. Those words say nothing of erudition or a person's intellect.

One simply cannot use those words in good conscience.

Edited at 2015-07-20 06:17 pm (UTC)
chesyaburke
Jul. 20th, 2015 06:39 pm (UTC)
One: I have every right to respond however, when and wherever I chose. You do not get to dictate that. I notice that you don't bother commenting on why "men" are never chastised for having or showing breast, since they have them too.

Two: I'm not sure why you think I care what you're more interested in hearing about, or your own opinions on the matter.
hsb
Jul. 20th, 2015 07:30 pm (UTC)
You know that neither of those words have anything to do with the outdated word meaning a POC, right? Niggly is Sandinavian, and the other is derived from niggard, meaning a miser.

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(driveby from Twitter)
merseabirdmynah
Jul. 20th, 2015 06:56 pm (UTC)
Men are not chastised for showing beasts because they are not seen as sex objects. Sadly female breasts are seen in that context rather than for breast feeding. If you post pictures of your tits, you feed that. Then again I personally have no issue with it. I paint nude women for a living. And feel sexuality is a statement of the individual. Someday society might catch up.

Tradition takes years to breakdown.

"Dictate" is an awfully strong and assumptive word to use here. I asked a question. You seemed defensive. In fact many of your posts do.
chesyaburke
Jul. 20th, 2015 07:04 pm (UTC)
"Tradition takes years to breakdown."

And won't happen if people are silent. And I refuse to be silent. If you don't like that, move on to another blogger that makes you feel better.

""Dictate" is an awfully strong and assumptive word to use here. I asked a question. You seemed defensive. In fact many of your posts do."

I seem defensive to you. So? Again you seem to be under the assumption that I owe you something. I do not.
merseabirdmynah
Jul. 26th, 2015 07:08 pm (UTC)
You won't be open to meaningful dialog nor will others if you cant argue affectively or have a discussion without making it personal. What then is your purpose, to troll? Or would you rather teach someone something because you care about the topic.

You really need to understand that, not for me, for your purpose.
Whether I care or not is irrelevant, whether you care or not is irrelevant.

Doesn't matter if its livejournal, twitter, facebook or a comment thread somewhere else.


Oh but Pride before the fall.

Take care.
chesyaburke
Jul. 27th, 2015 02:45 pm (UTC)
I have nothing to argue with you about. You don't get to tell me what is and isn't irrelevant in my life. I have no need to prove anything to you. And quoting bible verses to me will not change that.

If I choose to teach, it will be my students in the classroom. Not some anonymous, disingenuous strangers on LJ. Again you seem to expect something from me that just won't happen. Unless you're going to pay me, like everyone else, then I'll be more than willing to explain why you're being an asshole.

P.S. Troll? Me thinks you don't understand the meaning of this word. Since this is my page. In other words, you're the troll in this case.

Edited at 2015-07-27 03:49 pm (UTC)
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